What is Conscious Uncoupling?

"Contrary to popular belief, time does not heal all wounds. We do."

Originated by marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas in 2011 as an online course that has helped thousands to breakup better, Conscious Uncoupling provides a blueprint for separations that are most known for their bountiful acts of kindness, big-hearted gestures of generosity and goodness, and for the genuine efforts made to do the right thing for the right reasons.

​"A conscious uncoupling is a breakup or divorce that is characterized by a tremendous amount of goodwill, generosity, and respect, where those separating strive to do minimal damage to themselves, to each other, and to their children (if they have any), as well as intentionally seek to create new agreements and structures designed to set everyone up to win, flourish, and thrive moving forward in life."

​                                    - Katherine Woodward Thomas 

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Why Conscious Uncoupling?


you want:

  • to evolve from you old wounds of love, to break out of that same old story that somehow, despite all of your best efforts, keeps playing out again and again.
  • to emerge from this experience having healed that old wound that keeps being broken open by each new relationship.
  • inner empowerment to move beyond this heartbreak by becoming clear about the source fracture that is at the bottom of your recurring patterns in love loss and release it once and for all.
  • transformation out of blame and shame into love and welcoming of yourself and your next relationship, free of the patterns of the past.
  • to process past traumas in ways that fully release their grip on your life.
  • to take the energy of anger and pain and turn it into the power for change.

Creating Your Happily Even After

conscious uncoupling is 5 steps toward living happily even after:​

step 1: finding emotional freedom

  • learn to use your big emotions to inspire and catalyze unprecedented change in your life
  • create an Inner Sanctuary of Safety within which to contain and transform your old pain from heartache into wholeness and deep strength, stability and self love
  • set an intention to make something beautiful out of the pain of parting

step 2: reclaiming your power and your life

  • change your inner narrative from one of feeling victimized to one of peace and true completion
  • recognize yourself as the source of your own experience in empowering and growth-inspiring ways
  • release old unconscious, habitual patterns that have kept you small and begin showing up in ways that reflect your true value

step 3: break the pattern, heal your heart

  • name the old core beliefs that have been wrecking your love life and awaken to your power to create new, happy, healthy love moving forward
  • discover the ways you have been unconsciously generating disappointing and disempowering patterns in your life and how to move beyond them now
  • learn new capacities and skills to  create fulfilling relationships in your future

step 4: become a love alchemist

  • learn to value, protect and release the love that brought you and your partner together while creating a new context for that love and for your life
  • set a rich and full vision of your future to act as your north star as you navigate this challenging and sometimes painful journey of self discovery and release
  • begin to dissolve residual anger and hurt  and to communicate in ways that will empower you to sustain a healthier dynamic moving forward

step 5: create your happily-even-after life 

  • complete the old agreements your relationship was based on and generate new ones that support the new form it is now taking
  • relate to your greater community in ways that foster cohesion and support for the new structures you are creating
  • discover healthy, generous and mutually beneficial ways to care for your children and deal with the division of property and all of the requirements, legal and otherwise, of uncoupling


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